I feel heartbroken. I’ve said goodbye to my partner who is

I feel heartbroken. I’ve said goodbye to my partner who is in the military and I’m really struggling to deal with it. I don’t believe it gets easier as time goes on, as last time I had seen him was at Christmas and 2 months later I saw for only 1 night. I’m really not coping well and I feel stupid. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to go another 7 weeks without him. Please can someone help and give me advice. I’m new to this life and I feel like no one understand me.

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Apr 1, 2018

I cannot imagine the pain you feel and the annoyance when being told that it will get easier with time. You are demonstrating your own inner strength by reaching out to a group to express your feelings. Take pride in these achievements and other victories you have each day. While the pain lingers, you deserve to find positives in each day. Focusing on this balance will help the time to pass.

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Apr 2, 2018

ArmyGf246 gave awesome tips for you to communicate with others that are going through similar situations. You have made a great first step in joining this group to seek advice! I would say in order to pass the time and keep your mind off of the distance, make sure you are participating in leisure activities. Take time to do things that you enjoy, it will ease your mind even if it is for a short while when he is away. I would completely agree with utilizing your support system to go out and do fun activities or just spend time. They are a great outlet to the stresses of life, such as being separated from your partner. I wish you the best of luck and hope this gives you some comfort. From the time frame of your first post the seven weeks should be coming to an end. I hope this advice will help you in the future!

Oct 16, 2018

You definitely are not dumb or stupid for feeling heartbroken! I am also one year into not seeing my boyfriend due to him being stationed in Japan and me living on the East coast of the US. It is absolutely normal to feel heart broken without him! You are definitely not alone. Find some things to do to get your mind off of him every once in a while and keep in touch with other individuals in support groups going through the same thing as you. For me, It is comforting and helpful knowing that I am not going through this alone. I hope this helps a little and if you ever need to talk we are all here for you!


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