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I need advice. My husband of 30 years is using meth. I fou

I need advice. My husband of 30 years is using meth. I found out almost 7 years ago, at the same time found out he was having an affair. We initially worked thru it all with success. The affair ended and meth use stopped, or so I thought. I have threatened, begged and pleaded , but there is always an excuse as to why he can't stop using yet. " When I finish this job or finish working on this" I soooo tired of this. It's killing me emotionally and physically. I think about leaving everyday, but for some reason I can't do it. I worry what he will do to himself if I do. I know all the right answers, but it's not that easy. Thanks for reading. Needed to vent, and ask for suggestions

GirlKitty's picture
Mar 15

@Feduptohere Welcome to the SG!
You are right, just knowing what you should do doesn't make doing it easy. In fact, it's usually the hardest thing to do.
I'm definitely NOT an expert on anything, but in my opinion your husband is an addict. I believe this because I'm an addict. And, I remember all the lies I'd tell myself that sound so familiar to what you're husband has said to you, "Just one more script...", "After this weekend...", and all the others. So, it may be impossible for him to quit without some help. I was able to quit what I was doing at home for a day or two, but the withdrawals almost killed me and I ended up going to rehab anyway. Remember, addiction is a disease and it requires treatment just like cancer or anything other illness.
No matter what is going on with your husband, you have to take care of yourself first. You can't stay just for him if it's time for you to go. Talk to him, tell him you've reached the end of your rope and you really can't take it anymore. That may be enough to wake him up and seek help. I'm sorry I don't have any better advice, hopefully someone else will post a reply.
I hope you'll post again and let us know how things are going.

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