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I'm trying to find anything that will help me with this void

I'm trying to find anything that will help me with this void i feel. It's like a deep hole that I have fallen into and can't get out. Where do you turn when you are married but lonely. I have tried exposing this feeling to my husband but he just blows it off as nothing. He tells me if I'm not happy then I need to fix it. I love my husband but I don't know how much more I can take. He would like for me to believe im the only person in this world with this issue.

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[10400]
Oct 11

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through, friend. Wish I could give you a hug. Please know that you're not alone. I know how difficult and painful it must be for you. Have you ever considered talking with a counselor? Do you think that's something that might be helpful for you personally? I just said a prayer for you, and I hope that God will surround you with His perfect love, comfort and provide the help you need at this time. You can always come here to share and you will find a lot of help and support. Stay strong. Hugs!

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initwithyou61's picture
[3645]
Oct 11

So sorry you are having a hard time. No you definitely are not the only one with this issue. I do understand. Men and their needs are so different from women. My husband works 10 hour days at a very stressful job. When he comes home sometimes I feel like he's only here in body. He's so "brain dead" from all the stress at work. I try articulating to him my need for conversation, empathy, etc., but he doesn't understand. I know he tries, but being out in the dog eat dog, competitive work world all day and then coming home to me is a big difference. Being in the work place is a fight for survival so when he comes home he's ready to just relax and watch TV. I try not to make a lot of demands on him. I get my relational and emotional needs met from my friends and my adult daughter. I also belong to a healthy church and have a lot of connections there. I also listen to Christian radio throughout the day to keep me uplifted.

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rtscd8's picture
[470]
Oct 12

You're not alone. I've felt this way too and it's not your fault. A marriage takes two people. I wonder if something has happened in your marriage that contributed...job changes, family changes? Sometimes stress changes people and makes it tough to cope. But the two posts above me couldn't have said it better...some really great suggestions. Have you and your husband every discussed counseling?

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