I realized on Saturday that a friend of mine, or so I though

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Jan 18 in Loneliness

I realized on Saturday that a friend of mine, or so I thought, is largely because of my efforts. I listened to my therapist on Monday and she said not to message this person unless they do first. After almost 3 years I thought things would be different. I guess I was wrong.
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CanUSeeTheRealMe's picture
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Jan 21

Sorry to hear about your loss. I have been going through some of this myself but for other reasons. I have lost 5 friendships in the last 2 years and a lot of it comes from when I confronted them over things that were going on in the relationship that was hurtful to me. Seems like when you decide to care for yourself that you find out who your friends really are. I have one good friend now that I feel close to and care about. It hurts to go through this but in the long run maybe you will find out what real friendship looks like and instead of wasting time on those that don't value you, you could find someone that will see you and value your friendship.

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(855)
Jan 21

Its definitely hard but you learn to go through it. Ive lost a lot of past friendships but dont let it make you hard. Do everything with love and not because of an expectation. If people text back, great But if they dont, try your best to take care of you. The more expectations you have of other people will lead you to more disappointments. Maybe take a step back and focus on you

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LindaLindaEye3's picture
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Jan 23

I’m dealing with something similar where the 2 friendships I have it’s always me messaging them first or making plans first. One of these friends is going through a lot so I have to take that into consideration. However, my therapist said the same thing to wait until she comes around first before messaging them. It does suck though.

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