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I have a story that happened to me yesterday evening that I

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I have a story that happened to me yesterday evening that I would like to share with you all. I called my oldest sister just to see how she was doing and as usual she asked me if I could come over and give her a ride to work. Any other time she would never answer the phone when I called. But this time she did. And we started talking about different things . I had just finished walking at the park to clear my mind and I said maybe I would. I've always have dropped what I was doing when she wanted something. Then I thought again, I told her I don't know because I thought she'd ridicule me and make fun of my cap that I like to wear. This cap was a Regee Ristafarian knitted cap with green, yellow and red colors in it. There was no marijuana leaf on the back of my cap. She gave me the third degree about how all those colors meant that you smoke weed and if I got stopped by the police they will think that I smoke weed which I don't, never have and never will. I just happen to like the hat because I thought it looked cool and I do like some reggae music.. She began to critize me and call me names and said that I associate myself with some of the dumbest things. The way I saw it was, it was just a cap that kept my head warm for crying out loud. So I thought to myself why should I go way out of my way to pick her up and take her to work when all she does is belittle and insult me everytime I see her. Any other time I would have givien in and picked her up and took her to work. But this time I became indignant because I felt like she went too far. I'm to the point where if no one can accept me for who I am then I don't need to be around them. So I just turned my car back around and took myself home. I'm so tired of trying to please others and allowing myself to put up with their insults just to keep from being lonely. I went home, washed my face and put in a good movie and now I'm going to bed. But don't get me wrong, there were some twinge of guilt popping up but I squelched it because I believe I'm right. I shouldn't have to change or tone down my personality for anyone to fit in to be liked. I know I'm a good person, and I'm a generous person who wants to help others but I refuse to be a doormat for people to step all over anymore. Please tell me what you think. Do you think I've done the right thing? What would you have done? Any comments or advice would appreciated.

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Leigh76's picture
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Dec 14

@EstrangedAndIsolated

Thanks so much for your comment and advice. I love the, "The hat comes with the car" , comment. I've got to remember that one.

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Leigh76's picture
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Dec 14

@dowse

Thanks so much for your advice. I had to do the same thing with my oldest sister. I had to avoid her like the plague for my sanity. This sister I wrote about in the earlier post is a middle sister. It's weird, family really knows how to hurt you. I will take your advice to heart. God bless you too.

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WintersEnd's picture
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Dec 15

I get where you're coming from, I have family members I haven't spoken to in a long time because no matter how kind and outgoing I was nothing I did for them was ever appreciated and (in their opinion) somehow everything wrong in the world was all my fault. Now, you have to be true to you, as long as you aren't hurting anyone (And I don't see how a hat could hurt someone) wear what you like. My advice would be to talk to your sister and tell her how you feel and how she made you feel, let her share her feelings as well then everything is out in the open. Hopefully, this could lead to understanding and reconciliation. If not, at least you can say you tried.

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