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I don't think my hallmates like me very much. They're friend

Herman_the_Merman's picture
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I don't think my hallmates like me very much. They're friendly but, only because they feel obligated to be. No one's ever said that they didn't like my company. But, everyone else fits into the dynamic of the hall and I just don't for whatever reason. I have trouble relating to them. They've all become close-knit and I'm just there. I try to make myself approachable and I try to be nice and charming and funny. But, I always seem to fall a little short. The moment becomes flat and the close friendship everyone else has made slips through my grasp. I'm stuck looking in onto everything. Everyone goes out to dinner and on walks and hangs out in the common area to watch movies. And I've never been invited. I'm not saying it's their fault or that they have ostracized me on purpose. They probably just forget. I'm not super unique or quirky or fun. Which means I'm easy to forget about. That doesn't mean the isolation doesn't sting or that the loneliness isn't soul crushing. I haven't been able to actually make friends with anyone in classes or club activities either. I can't talk to anyone about this because I'm supposed to only care about earning good grades so I can get a diploma in whatever makes money and work until I die. Which is a little difficult because everything I'm half-way decent at is useless because the only thing that doesn't make me feel completely dead inside is performing.

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Herman_the_Merman's picture
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Oct 12

@bebobaBetty I meet a lot of people and try to get into conversations but, they just have more important things to do than talk to a stranger about their hobbies. I probably shouldn't be focusing on making friends. I don't really need a study group so a friendship isn't very useful.

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luna1994's picture
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Oct 12

@Herman_the_Merman you can't rush relationships or friendships you just need to keep trying and eventually you will find the right people to hang out with just foucs on the more important things and the friendship thing will happen at a later time i hope i was some help to you.

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Oct 14

Hey! Sorry this is going on. I have been in your shoes and I know the emotions that are going through your head. I have a hard problem when it comes to not "fitting in". I also tend to care what people think of me. Something I have found out is... I need to be myself and not try so hard when it comes to making friends. You are unique and you are the only "you". The world needs you ... So take it from my past and be yourself, bud. I will be praying for you and hope to hear from you soon!

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