Does anyone else get like a, 'loneliness rebound' after bein

Does anyone else get like a, 'loneliness rebound' after being around loved ones? I am lonely a lot, which might be part of what makes my time with good friends or family so precious and wonderful. But then when it's over, I feel so much worse. Like a giant hole in my heart afterwards, and I feel pretty empty in general. Anyone understand this? The loneliness after a really nice time with friends is brutal for me. I'm going through it right now and wow, it hurts.

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Aug 13

Almost every single time for me. I am one of 4 sisters and I am the only one who is not married with young kids.We live very different lives in many ways. I am so blessed to be a part of this wonderful family but yes, it takes a toll on my soul each and every time. I had my son when I was young and he is grown now. It used to be him and I doing everything, now it is just me. The two sisters that I am closest with and live near both have young children and have life stuff going on most of the time. Every birthday, holiday, or even just a Sunday, though I love being with them, leaving each time leaves a pit in my stomach and an ache in my heart.

Aug 14

Hi @RedRiver88, thanks for commenting. I totally get those other feelings too. Being around happy couples... I'm happy for them too, but I feel devastated inside myself from not having anyone like that. And all the feelings you mentioned, those are my thoughts too. I would never admit to anyone in my regular life... feeling this way. All my friends have someone special, or are married. I'm the only single one. I'm just grateful my friends hang out with me. There are couples who only hang out with other couples, so I don't want to push anyone away telling them about my darkness. I tried once and it wasn't received well. I hope someday we both find one. I'm sorry you have these feelings too, but it is comforting knowing I'm not the only one in the world.

Aug 14

@cchavez84 thanks for sharing here. I didn't realize there are other people feeling this way because a few people have commented now. Yes, me too about even if it's just a regular day and I see my friends or my Mom, the pit in my stomach starts immediately. I'm not sure if I feel it in my heart too. Kind of that hole area just feels empty and hollow. Either when I get into the car, or their car backs out of my driveway, it starts that quickly. I don't have kids, but I can imagine how hard it must be once they've grown and started an adult life. It has to hurt badly. At least it would for me. I guess we just all have to hang in there. I hope this will pass for all of us. Unfortunately it feels to me like things will never change.


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