Since I was young my friends have put me in second place, no

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Since I was young my friends have put me in second place, now again in my late teens I'm being put on the back burner.. I start to wonder if there is something wrong with me that everyone just seems to have better people, boyfriends, other friends. What am I doing wrong that I have to wave a sign that I actually exist to my own friends. Maybe I just have too much baggage? Am I just that boring and uninteresting? Is my confidence just to low? I don't have many friends, like it's bad.. It's just so hard for me to be social and be out there, maybe if I was more confident in that regard I would have had friends who make me feel like I am good enough. I don't mean that people should put me in first place in their lives, but no one in this world should be treated like their second best in any type of relationship or is that just me? The fact that people leave me alone and lonely even though I tell them how I feel just contributes to my self-loathing. I'm just so sick of it I'd rather be alone without anyone and feel happy than to have friends who don't appreciate me who make me question my self worth and stress for their approval. I'm sorry I know this post is all over the place but I'm just so done with such people..

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Oct 12

It might be a little of both, meaning sure, you might need to show a bit more enthusiasm about getting out there but it could be the few that act that way towards you just aren't considerate enough either. You could try to invite a friend to come over or go do something. Just try to go out of your way more even if you really don't want to because you're hurt. Also venture out more to meet new friends. Try to think of ideas such as joining a club at school even if it seems lame to you, do it anyway. Look up the different clubs they have. My son joined the chess club in school, there were only like 4 of them but who cares.

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Nightinggale777's picture
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Oct 12

I am feeling the exact same way...its weird it's like you read my mind haha. .still wondering why too...

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invisiblesadperson's picture
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Oct 16

@Nightinggale777 Maybe there's more of us out there than we think who relate in this way

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