I seem to have a hard time separating who my ex was to me ve

I seem to have a hard time separating who my ex was to me versus who he is to me now. He used to be the person I loved the most, and now he's a casual friend that I think cares about me. But when I think of him in a new relationship, I just feel sad and behind. Does anyone have any advice on how to remind myself that our relationship is in the past, and it says nothing about what he thinks of me, or what I deserve?

andine's picture
Oct 23

Try to keep busy with healthy friends, family and activities. Staying grounded in the present is a great way to avoid spending too much time in the past or or thinking about the *what ifs*. Groups like this are important for support and addressing codependency issues. Take care of yourself. If you are experiencing ptsd symptoms, hope you have good medical help as well.

105's picture
Oct 23

All andine said. repeating "keep busy with healthy friends..." Get out and do things. Idle time leaves too much room for thinking . When we can think good thoughts , constructive, etc. think away. But when you are no thinking positively, get busy and change the view. : ) Best of luck.


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