I don't know if this would be considered jealousy, but I get

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I don't know if this would be considered jealousy, but I get upset and hurt when my husband goes out with his friends after work instead of coming home to me and the kids. I feel like he chooses not to spend time with us and puts other people ahead of us. I don't know where his priorities are, and when I express how hurt I feel, he just gets angry with me. I worry about infidelity, but he assures me nothing is going on...It's not that it happens often either, but still...I hurt inside. I guess I feel jealous of the connection he has with his friends?

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Feb 16

Men really don’t see things how we do I think it’s so important to spend time as a family my partner works 6 days a week and like u I see him for an couple of hours in evening and a Sunday it’s not a lot . Maybe try talking to him saying how u feel men can be pretty thick at picking stuff up mine is lol

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Feb 16

@Katiemay123 LOL. I hear that. We have had this same conversation (which turns into arguments) for the past 11 months. First he was just going out and not telling me. Then he just *recently* started to text or call to let me know what he was doing, but what bugs me is he would ask if it was OK with me, and he was ALREADY THERE. What if I said, yes, it DOES bother me. I know he wouldn't come home. I am stuck between trying to be a good wife and letting him do his thing without nagging him to spend time with us, and speaking up for myself and how I feel. He has a problem with saying 'no' to people. He will tell "the guys" he has to go home, for example, when one of our daughters was sick. The so called friends continue to harass him and pull the "oh come on" and he has even admitted that they tell him not to say anything and just go. It's so frustrating. I just don't understand why he doesn't see how much it bothers me. I have told him I don't care if he goes out when kids are in school (after one of his rare early shifts) because I'm at work and it doesn't take time away from us. But come on. We never see one another and I've been expressing my sadness over this for months!

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Feb 17

It’s sad he doesn’t see how much it upsets you but he would rather upset you than let down his friends think his just being selfish and yes it’s good your being a good wife and not nagging but his advantage of this he gets the best of both worlds time with his friends and a family to come home to I wouldn’t like it if my partner went out after work all he time so I completely see we’re your coming from I hope he listens to you before it’s to late

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