Do i have the right to be mad at my husband when he looks at

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Do i have the right to be mad at my husband when he looks at videos of sexy women on tick tok . I knw im insecure .he is a good husband caring loving attentive all i can ever want .

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It can be different for every couple. I agree with the others though if it hurts you then you need to let him know in a calm way just tell him. Think about the words you want to say and just tell him don't wait until you see him do it again tell him before. Explain to him how it makes you feel and don't feel bad or guilty for feeling that way because those are your feelings and hopefully he will understand and respect that.

Sep 14

Try having a calm conversation with him, maybe explain how it makes you feel (try not to cry as that can sometimes make a man feel like he's being manipulated). Then maybe discuss why he feels the need to look at those things. Be open to listening and consider how you might entice him to look at you that way. I've sometimes had to step out of my comfort zone to turn my guy's head back to me, but often it turned out very beneficial for both of us. It will take open, honest communication, but together hopefully you can both work together to resolve this. Prayers for wisdom and guidance.

Sep 20

Dear locabori,

I don’t know what is going on in your marriage but I can give you a little insight from my own situation that may help. My husband was raised that he was supposed to make women happy. He thought he could look to his heart’s content and let it be known that he enjoyed and admired what he saw. He is a visual person anyway and the looking stimulated him. He was not taught that when he married I should be his focus. He was also not taught that he was to encourage me and I was to encourage him in making each of our lives better because we were a team. One day I had enough and put my picture before him. It was an eye opener for him. I told him I was his one and only wife and I wanted to be the beauty and special woman in his life; his one and only love. I told him that I expected his full attention and that I didn’t expect to be compared to anyone else. I asked that he help me to be willing to be attractive for him and to help him to see me thru God’s eyes. We began at that point to encourage one another. There is a book “Ready to Wed.” that helps to put this in perspective and also the book ‘Boundaries” helps somewhat. Wandering eyes have trouble being loyal and pure as marriage is supposed to be. Wandering eyes and seeking fulfillment elsewhere can be a form of adultery and can create jealousy and envy. These are not good character traits and are not helpful in building a strong, healthy, secure marriage. I am praying for you that you and your husband will work thru this in a way that will make your marriage more secure and better for each of you. If you need more info here is a number-855 382 5433-you can call for other resources and maybe even counseling if it comes to the point you feel you need it. I am praying for you as you brooch this with your husband and that he will see this is not a good thing for his well being or the blessing of his marriage. God bless you and your precious husband.

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