This week's Brilliant New Topic: It is Thanksgiving next week y'all, where has the year gone???
November 19th, 2020

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You know.... I think that those of us to choose to move forw

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You know.... I think that those of us to choose to move forward- if it’s with a partner who owns responsibility and shows consistent reliability over time.., it can work. But- ‘forgiveness’ isn’t a real thing. We can understand and have company, but there will always be pain.

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Leahzan's picture
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Nov 30

@jamiemaddrox2020 I've tried the intellectual approach to the APs. I've gotten no satisfaction in the communications. But, in some way I did feel like I got closure. I think one thing I wanted them to experience is that I wasn't some anonymous women, but rather was a real person, and that they weren't some anonymous woman either. That their decisions impacted me as a real person. The reality is they are as broken as my EX so are artful dodgers when it comes to responsibility.

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devastatedinptbo's picture
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Nov 30

@Leahzan totally agree. As much as I’d like to run her over with my car, intellectually I know that she’s one f-(#ed up individual. The reality is we don’t need to seek revenge, these people are punishing themselves by sinking so low morally. A wise friend said to me: “ people who think little of themselves think little of others”. So until these people do a whole lot of work on themselves and gain some self respect, they are just not capable of functioning like decent, moral members of society.

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Leahzan's picture
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Nov 30

@devastatedinptbo realizing that their decisions are a reflection about how they think about themselves has been so liberating. I've talked with my daughter at length that her dad's decisions (past and current) are more a reflection on how he feels about himself and not how he feels about me or her. And, that I hope someday he thinks he is worth more and able to give more than the meaningless relationships he is seeking. And, that she is worth more and should demand more from her own relationships, and that I am worth more and will demand more from any future relationships. These have been empowering conversations to have with her.

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