What is it to forgive? Have any of you genuinely forgiven yo

@Dehaha I messaged the woman my husband was with that ultimately resulted in me uncovering years of stuff. She said they were physical (which I already knew) and that he was helping her through a bad time, that was all. There was no back and forth with her because it doesn't matter. I actually just wanted her to know there were consequences for real people including children due to her decision to date a married man. But, I'm curious how helping through a bad time includes sending photos of you shaking your a55 and him sending messages talking about his erection. She may not have been physical, but he was. The lies people tell themselves to avoid feeling shame or taking responsibility for their actions.

My husband talked to me about how she had a bad life, like that made any difference. My response to him was I didn't give a flying F about his date's bad life. I had no desire to have any sympathy for her life situation that led her to get involved with him.