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Well, Thanksgiving weekend was definitely a mixed bag of emo

Well, Thanksgiving weekend was definitely a mixed bag of emotions! Sad to say we hit a few rough patches this weekend despite the progress we've been making lately. It was definitely an emotionally charged and draining weekend. Just when you think things are going great, out of nowhere you get slapped with some issue/emotion that totally throws you off course, is that the way its been for you?? I am glad to say though that we both persevered and did not rest till we reached a resolution. We talked into exhaustion. Finally, FINALLY, I feel like I got the whole truth about what their relationship was...right down to conversations, thoughts, feelings, the whole bag. Some things were hard to hear, but when we were done I felt so much lighter somehow. The truth really does set you free. Cant stress enough the importance of full disclosure. So this weekend, I was grateful for many things, but mainly that I have my husband back. And I believe I truly do. It will always hurt and we still have such a ways to go, but this week we are starting fresh. What amazes me is that the more we learn, the more we realize we have to learn. I am proud that my husband has not relented in four months in trying to make things right. He is learning about himself and accepting responsibility without making excuses. He freely expresses his regret and admits he was a **** and selfish and immature. He is not emotionally expressive by nature, so I know how very hard it is to admit he thought he was in love with this woman and he feels so stupid now because he knows it wasn't real. Funny thing is, when I asked what he loved about her, he could hardly find a thing to say. He didn't know. He finally came to the conclusion on his own that it really wasn't about her at all. What he loved was not her, but how she made him feel about himself. Just words on a screen. I asked how he dealt with those feelings of "love" for her. He said they had dissipated almost immediately. They talked for a week after DD...and apparently it was nothing but arguing (she was mad because he wanted to work on his marriage, haha). He start thinking what the hell he was doing, he doesn't even know this woman. Again, just words on a screen. Anyway, sorry for this offload...just wanted to share with someone!!

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Angie2002's picture
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Oct 11

@Jackson35 EXACTLY. We were in his office, I asked him to pass me his phone to look something up because I didn't have mine, and I noticed the message icon up in the corner. Something told me to click on it....ugh...hate thinking about that moment.

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Jackson35's picture
[1560]
Oct 11

@Angie2002 - Sorry to take you there. I just assumed that since you said you found out before it had gotten that far, that you stumbled upon it the same way I did. Mine was Snap Chat, so what I got to see was limited to a couple messages...and the picture she had sent him. A lovely memory I get to replay as well. Amazing how many similarities we have. the OP wasn't a blonde was she? J/K.

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Angie2002's picture
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Oct 12

@Jackson35 haha no, brunette .

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