Well, I'm sure a lot of you have seen my story on here the l

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Well, I'm sure a lot of you have seen my story on here the last 17 months and tonight I think my marriage is probably done. I held on for 17 months after her cheating and now she tells me she doesn't feel it for me sexually and the way I want her to. Basically repeated what she told me a few years ago, that even on her wedding as she knew she didn't feel it for me. She says she married me and wanted kids because she wanted to feel it and tried and now says she doesn't think she ever will. It doesn't matter that I've been a good husband and did everything for her. She says she loves me and wants to be with me still and stay together for the kids. She wants to be here so she doesn't have to work and I can pay for her, that's my opinion. I think that's why she has been here for years. It's all been fake. She pretends all is well until we get in a fight and this all comes out. Lately she has had every excuse to not have sex with me. I said ok, if I stay with you are we still having sex. She said maybe every now and then but I should no longer ask her for it because it stresses her out. She says she worries daily when I'm gonna ask because she doesn't want it from me. So I'm supposed to stay with her and pay her bills and basically be roommates and maybe she will give me sex here and there as a reward for staying, not because she feels it for me. I said I'm not signing up for that, I'm here for love, not obligation and greed. We have been going to counseling and I said well, we should cancel that then. She said, why? I said because you keep saying you can't change your feelings so what's the point. She said she doesn't know why she feels the way she does and doesn't know if her feelings will ever change and doesn't know if counseling could help at this point. She talks in circles, all I don't knows and contradicts everything she says with something else. I know 100% she isn't cheating and her affair ended 17 months ago so that's not it. I said ok, how about I stay and I won't ask for sex and I'll go get it elsewhere, are you ok with that? She said, I don't know, maybe. I said, you would be good with me being with other people? She said not really but who knows maybe I would and It might be better so you don't bother me. This woman is seriously mental. How does someone stay with someone for 25 yrs and pretend they love someone? Then tell you it's all pretty much fake and she did it because she was hoping she felt something. She kisses me at least twice a day and says she loves me at least that many times a day. I asked her if she even likes kissing me and her response, "not really". After the affair, we were going on weekly dates and having good times and now she says it wasn't enough and it didn't really help her feel it. I said we need to do more together then. She said I annoy her and she has no urge to want to even be around me. So I don't think I have a choice here. Would anyone here sign up for this ****? By the way, I don't really want to go have sex with anyone else, I love my wife and want it with her. I asked her that to see what she would say. She keeps me on a string by one minute saying she hasn't felt it for me in years and even on her wedding day and then says I don't know if my feelings will ever change. She says maybe but it's been a long time so most likely not. I think I gotta be done with this now. Otherwise I will continue to be used for whatever she can get out of me. Oh and she wants so badly and wishes she felt the way I want her to because things would be so much easier she says. This sounds pretty hopeless to me. She also has depression and some type of mental illness but I think what she is telling me is real. When I question it and ask if it's her mental issues, she tells me I'm in denial. I say, fine, I got the message loud and clear, let's get a divorce then. She says, oh cmon and laughs. I'm like what do you mean, I'm serious and this is not funny to me. Now she's sound asleep without a care in the world while I'm wide awake with terrible anxiety about my future.

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Apr 20

*******PLEASE DO NOT POST IN THIS THREAD ANYMORE IT IS CLOSED DUE TO THE FACT IT HAS REACHED IT"S LIMIT OF 100************* THANK YOU - JENNIPAIN - MODERATOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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*******PLEASE DO NOT POST IN THIS THREAD ANYMORE IT IS CLOSED DUE TO THE FACT IT HAS REACHED IT"S LIMIT OF 100************* THANK YOU - JENNIPAIN - MODERATOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Apr 20

@Sdiamond1026 This thread has been closed. Support me and message me about the meds.

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