Today I am feeling sad, and maybe some anxiety. My husband s
Today I am feeling sad, and maybe some anxiety. My husband started his new job today and has to spend 2 days in Bakersfield, the town that he would go to for his other job, that she transferred to, and had the affair. I know that he will not see her, and she has moved on, but him going there triggers everything back for me. He has given me as much information as possible, he won't know what hotel he'll be in until he gets there. All of this makes me raw again. I am back to the I can't believe he did this to me, and wanting to run away from all of this. I know that no matter what I decide, to stay or leave, the fact that it happened will never chaunge.
@mcrowder I am in the same boat you are. I have not been to counseling or confided in anyone outside of this group and my wife. I am a very private person by nature. I know many in this group that are the same and I know many who have looked to friends and family for support immediately. The ideal situation would be to have someone in your "real world" to get you through. I know for many, like us, that's not always possible for a variety of reasons. This group has been invaluable. I am not here as much as I was in the beginning but I wouldn't be where I am today without the support I have gotten and the stories I have heard that put things into perspective for me. I am still not where I want to be and, frankly, I don't know if that will ever be possible. I have hope though. Thanks to many, many folks here and my wife who has absolutely put the work in she needed to.
I hope that you are feeling better abut things- you have received some excellent advice and cudo's for taking a proactive approach- and getting it out of the head- it is often our silent thoughts that are the worst- I am thankful for this community to share with. Many Blessings
I am feeling a lot better lately. My husband even said he had to stay another day, and he sent me an email from his boss so I could tell he was telling me the truth, and I handled it. Sometimes talking to other people helps and puts things into perspective. Many blessings to you too!