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So new here. Just found out my wife of 10 years has had sex

So new here. Just found out my wife of 10 years has had sex multiple times with 2 different guys...found out Friday.. I don't even know how to process it.

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May 17

@Broke-husband is she going to get help? That is key to salvage this. Though I'm not sure that has even processed for you yet. Sounds like addictive behavior. When folks are in the midst of this, they will lie to the affair partner to continue getting their needs met. It is hurtful to the married partner to hear and read all of these things the cheating partner has said. But just know they were likely said to keep a "supply"....fulfill a need untapped as a child. If I might suggest...start w counseling for you (and her seperately... though u need to see her initiate that on her own terms) and then couples therapy (when you are ready.)

May 17

@Kas1966 My imagination is way worse than anything I hear, I definitely need details or I drive myself crazy.

May 18

@Cheatos, I was there 2.5 years ago dealing with crippling pain of loving someone so much. My journal entries at that time talked about how lucky I thought I was, how incredibly fortunate I was to be married to my best friend. She was literally cheating on me while I was journaling. The pain was intense. And one of the most important things to survive this is to get sleep, which seems impossible when your mind races every time you lay down. I took Unisom most nights for about a year. Please get rest, even if it is forced rest. Your body needs it.


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