So I have been with my partner for 13 years. From the moment

So I have been with my partner for 13 years. From the moment we met until now he has cheated on me and my problem is I can’t leave and I don’t know why. I try. I offered to sign our house over to him and leave I offered to lie to the girl he was sleeping with so he could go be with her and he said no. I have offered everything. I moved out at one stage and ended up back here. Recently I found out he was in a 6 month relationship with a connection to someone at my work. They told me. I still stayed. Not 10 days later another girl messages me and he too had been with her telling her he loved her for over 7 months (that’s right, 3 people at once). Then I still can’t leave and I find out he’s gone back to sleeping with both of them... and now I’m getting threatening messages from one of them who says she has a connection and she’s not letting go. He said he doesn’t want them. I still have t left! Please I am not stupid. I know I need to go. I just can’t and I don’t know why.

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mmadlecl's picture
Jan 19

@queensway Thank you so much. It took many tries before and after marriage.

Betrayedbyasexaddict's picture
Jan 19

@Beyondhelp my hubby brought home some paperwork from his therapist 2 years ago... this quote has stuck with me "If your partner chooses to seek out or be with someone other than you, that is their choice." Read that as many times over and over until sinks in...THEIR CHOICE. Not what you did or didn't do. No one forced him to cheat... He chose it. What you do is YOUR choice. Stay or go... make excuses or not... still YOUR choice.

Jan 19

Thank you everyone for all your advice and things to think about. It is a small comfort to know there are people who understand that while leaving is the clear choice it is not always the easiest thing to do. I’m trying to leave. I will get there. I do r know how long it will take me, but I hope I am as brave as some of you have been.


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