My husband keeps asking me what I need to be able to trust h

My husband keeps asking me what I need to be able to trust him again? I have no clue what I'm meant to say....his words mean nothing and he has gone to such lengths to hide things how can I ever believe him? How are you ever meant to trust again?

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Leahzan's picture
Sep 22

@sunfloweraf I think it is huge to even feel "he does seem to be able to make lasting change." That is something I didn't see in my own relationship. I think that is what we all look for when we want to stay. I hope he does. But, no matter what happens I think you'll feel good about the efforts you made. If you stay, you'll know you did it because you wanted to not because you had to. If you leave, you'll know you put forth the effort and gave him a chance to change. Either of those outcomes are ones to be proud of.

sunfloweraf's picture
Sep 22

@Leahzan thanks so much for being supportive. I do completely value the fact that he seems capable of making changes that last. And I am a stronger, more insightful, more guarded person now, and that’s ok. Thanks for sharing your own experiences too - so much pain in the story you shared about your daughter’s interaction with her dad, but so much strength and fortitude, which is worth celebrating. I think we are always being exposed to new information, and some of us are able to absorb it and grow in new ways.

Sep 24

Dear broken 2021,

When trust is broken it is hard to put back together. It always seems to have a weak spot. For me, I could trust God but the man that failed to be honest and truthful with me that was way more difficult. So I prayed for God to help both of us. I prayed for God to be the head of our household and help my husband and I to each take our rightful place in submission to Him. Healing has taken a long time but God is faithful and just. Tell your husband that it will take both of you walking in the fullness of God’s truth and God’s plan for each of your lives. It is possible, It can be done. It is worth the doing. I am praying for both of you. God bless you.

PS. Here is a list of resources at resources to help you work thru this if both of you are willing. If he is not and you are then get help. Please.

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