My crazy story. I get up and see that my husband slept on th

My crazy story. I get up and see that my husband slept on the couch at some point in the night. So when I saw the pillow on the couch It trigged me, so I went to check his phone and computer. I am half asleep and I accidently dial one of his clients. I hang up put the phone down and deal with my shame around snooping. Later he comes asks did you call my client. I just said yes. he says ok. We keep doing morning things. We both know without words know that I am trigged. So after some coffee I go over to explain and he stops me and says in a sweet and reassuring voice. "I dont know why I could not sleep, I am really behind with work and I am not feeling well, nothing more babe, he blows me a kiss and asks what do you want me to make you for lunch." Oh boy I really got to get the trigger response under control.


It sounds like he handled it well. That is good. If he continues to handle situations like this in the same way, you will begin to trust him.

At some point, you may feel more confident in your ability to communicate with him about this, and rather than "snooping" you will just ask him. Then, he can respond in the same way, and after you've built trust, you can believe him.

That's the goal anyways. Looks easy on paper.

Jan 21

What a concept to ask before I react. more work in required.

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Jan 21

@MDMermaid Yes, but his response was also very telling (in a good way), so maybe your accident had a purpose.


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