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Looking for a bit of advice. My wife has been open with me (
Looking for a bit of advice. My wife has been open with me (she came clean - albeit a year after it happened!) and I know about when certain events happened etc.
But I’m a details man and literally want to know everything - for me this is what I need to get closure and help us move on. The one thing I’m desperate to know is how they crossed that initial boundary from friend to (I can’t even say it!), but of course the first day was when they were both really drunk so she doesn’t know specifics.
I’d also like to know exactly what she said to him but again she can’t remember - as it was so long ago (if only she had thought to tell me at the time ey!).
I know this was a mistake, I know she feels so bad - I don’t doubt she’s being genuine. And to be honest I ‘think’ (although not 100%) she is telling the truth. But
For me I just can’t get closure. I’m really struggling to look past it. What on earth do I do? It’s a huge flaw in my character, I just need to know everything. And sadly I don’t think she can give it.
I don’t want to lose her. But I worry for my health as my mind just keeps racing round trying to make sense of it - which ultimately I can’t do as to me I don’t have the complete picture.
Am I being ridiculous (as it is only minor, specific, details that I want)?
@devastatedinptbo thanks for taking the time for such a detailed response. I do agree, and it’s what I’ve said I need the finer details in order to get closure and move on together. But she claims to simply buy be able to remember what was said - sadly that’s what I need so I’m lost.
I’ll look at those videos some more
