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I'm having a gut feeling that there is something at the very

I'm having a gut feeling that there is something at the very least inappropriate going on with my husband and a woman he sees a couple times a month for work. So before I confronted him about his one night stand/emotional affair with the woman who lives across the country, he knew that I knew and it was hanging over our marriage like a black cloud and he said he thought I would leave him. There was one night he was texting this other woman about work, which is totally normal with his line of work, and she started flirting with him and ended up sending him a bunch of pictures of you know what. When I confronted him about the first woman I asked him flat out if there was anything going on with this other chick because I had seen the phone logs from that night, and i dont know but 100 texts back and forth is usually not work related. He said no, just friends. A month later i looked at his phone and found the pictures and we had a huge blowout about it and set boundaries about this woman. They have to see each other for work, no way around it. I told him to keep it professional and if she sends anything not work related to tell me.
So obviously I dont trust him to tell me the truth about this crap and I still check his phone logs and compare with his texts to see what was said. A few days ago they had a quick exchange of texts (probably 4 each) but he has deleted it from his phone so I dont know what was said. My only reasoning is he deleted something inappropriate thinking I wouldn't check the logs.
I don't know what to think. I don't think he'll be honest with me if I ask him and I'm so fed up with lies!!

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Oct 8

I would trust your gut, he sounds like he is up to some shady stuff.

Oct 9

@devastatedinptbo In all reality, yes I can contact her. I know her number and where she works. And I wouldn't have to pretend to know something because I already saw the naked photos she sent to him earlier this year.
The problem is that it would jeopardize our business if things go south, and with two young children I'm not sure if throwing in financial strain is what's best. Even if I did I'm sure she'll give me the same story as him of "we're just friends".
Funny thing is in one of the greatest coincidences I have ever witnessed her boyfriend is doing some work at our house. I had no idea who he was, I just called the first company that popped up on google and didnt know who he was until he had been to our home a couple times. She knows too now because my husband asked her if he was her boyfriend. So I take a little comfort knowing she's squirming about him finding out that she sent nude photos to another man.

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Oct 9

@Floored I definitely will. I'm not doing or saying anything until I have more proof. I learned the last time that if I play my hand and tell him how I find out about things, he just figures out a better way to hide it.
I guess my vigilance is about to get kicked up a notch!


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