I stupidly said I'd stay until after Xmas so the kids could

I stupidly said I'd stay until after Xmas so the kids could have a nice Christmad. I'm really struggling and said to my husband that we should sort everything now but he's holding me to the fact that I said I'd stay. The atmosphere is awful, and I am feeling really stressed. I have no ideas how to pretend everything on Christmas Day is fine, I've become so angry I don't even recognise myself anymore. I just have no clue what to do....My husband is deluded thinking we can make it work but just moving past the affair.....I can't....

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devastatedinptbo's picture
Nov 20, 2021

I’m sorry. I’m not someone who is good at pretending everything is ok when it’s not. Stop and take some deep breaths when you’re really feeling overwhelmed. Also, can you quietly continue to take steps towards your separation over the next month so that after Christmas you are well on your way? Having this goal to work towards might help you get through the next few weeks.

Nov 21, 2021

@devastatedinptbo I'm putting effort into sorting out the house so it is ready to go on the market. I think deep down I'm wishing that my husband will suddenly change and start to make everything better, but 10 months in I think that's a pipe dream

John99's picture
Nov 22, 2021

I wish I could be someone who can't pretend everything is okay. I learned to do it as a kid. My wife also learned that at a young age. Maybe if we weren't so good at it my marriage would not have died. Being able to pretend is a curse not a blessing


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