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I have been deeply depressed, stressed, and confused going o


I have been deeply depressed, stressed, and confused going on a year in a half. My husband is living 2 separate lives. One is with me and our two teens and the other is with his girlfriend. He keeps telling me that he knows that in the end everything will work out and that it will be me and him at the end but that he hasn’t given her a fair shot. I don’t understand why he would need to give the ow a fair shot at being with him. He told me he loves both of us, but they fight constantly and don’t have sex, he comes to me for that. Sometimes I just think I’m stupid, but we have been together forever, have a 17 and 18 year old, and have been married for over 13 years. My kids even tell me I’m too forgiving, but I don’t know how to go on without him I guess. I’m embarrassed by the whole situation. The kids and I know everything that is going on but the ow thinks we are separated and thinks that we are going to get a divorce. They both had me babysitting her Daughter (he is not the father) a few times because I’m good with kids. I just don’t see what he sees in her. She’s an alcoholic and doesn’t even take care of her child. Im just feeling hurt and betrayed.

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FaithfulFather's picture
Nov 6

WOW! Sorry you find yourself here. What your husband is doing is incredibly selfish.
Listen to your kids. Strength and prayers!

Nov 8

Hi @Bren79 I'm so sorry for all you've been going through and my heart goes out to you. Please remember you are worthy of love that can be trusted and you do not deserve anything less. I'm praying for healing, strength and wisdom for you to be able to know what to do. I also believe that no one is beyond redemption and that somehow your husband will see the errors of his ways.
Would you consider going for counseling? I found it really beneficial when I was going through a very difficult time in my marriage to enable me process what I was dealing with and the best way forward for my marriage. Sometime that professional help is necessary when dealing with a situation like this.
Sending you much hugs ))).

outoftheblue72's picture
Nov 8

@BrokenMan75 my thoughts exactly! @Bren79, he is wanting to have his cake and eat it too. Don't believe for a second that they are not having sex. Listen to your children and your own brain (which I know has to be telling you the same thing), kick him out! That's ridiculous that he would say that to you...he knows it will be you and him in the end??? OMG i am angry for you. My husband left me for the other woman. That was a year ago. I thought I couldn't live without him, but here I am. It is possible. My heart breaks for you.


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