I found out about my husband’s affair on 12-23-17. For the

I found out about my husband’s affair on 12-23-17. For the most part, I’m doing well. I can go for long periods of time without actively thinking about it (although like most here, it is always in my mind somewhere, like a death you never really stop grieving.). However, when I get to the end of August, which is when it started, the feelings come back. This is the third time around the calendar, and the pain and the questions are coming to the forefront again. It really sucks, bc September through December has always been my favorite time of year. It includes my birthday, our anniversary, as well as Halloween, thanksgiving, and Christmas. I hate the sadness that comes over me now. I’m not really looking for advice, but wondering if anyone else experiences something like this. I hate to think I’ll feel sadness in my favorite season for the rest of my life. His affair ruined so many things I cherished or even just liked, such as movies or songs or whatever. It’s hard not to feel resentment over the idea that autumn is no longer my happy time of year.

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Dryad's picture
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Sep 16, 2020

Found a good article on trickle truth and why it’s so destructive. I told him it isn’t the affairs that make me wonder if we will make it. It’s his lying. http://www.move-beyond-the-affair.com/blog/2014/7/5/why-the-trickle-truth-hurts

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Sep 30, 2020

This is just my opinion, and I am not a counselor, but it sounds like the time of year is a trigger for some PTSD about the issue. Have you tried counseling?

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beth65's picture
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Sep 30, 2020

@Dryad on some level do you think he could be cheating again?

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