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I am so sad! My husband had an affair in 2018.i feel like I

I am so sad! My husband had an affair in 2018.i feel like I have forgiven him, and want to move on, but I just struggle to be happy.
a little more info? In 2018 he cheated. I watched him have an affair for 6 months and knew he was. In July of that year he moved to a different state. He invited me to come but I told him no because he said he wasn’t committed to our family and I couldn’t move my 4 daughters on that.
We moved to be with him 1 year later, but when we did my oldest daughter(19) stayed behind. Her and her dads relationship is still strained.In September my second daughter moved out to college.
I am trying so hard to will myself into happiness, but I have lost 2 daughters my home, and moved from all my friends and family. I feel very alone. I want to love my husband, but I am scared. I don’t know if I can trust him.
I feel like a bad person! Why can’t I move on and be happy? Why can’t I feel
Iike I have a future? Why am I stuck in this miserable place? I feel like if I don’t move on, I am going to lose my other 2 girls and my husband! No one wants to be with the sad, disconnected person that I am! Please help!

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Oct 24

@Alj1975 no one can tell you that you need to be over your hurt, you feel what you feel. I think if the cheater really shows remorse then that helps with your healing, if they do not then the wound will never heal.

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Floored's picture
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Oct 24

@trust63 I have checked and I do have a couple but I did not get a notification, I clicked on your name and it told me access denied? I am not authorized to go on that page?

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Oct 24

@Alj1975 To me if you say he had an affair, that means that he had an ongoing relationship with another woman. All marital infidelity is wrong, unless both people agree to an open relationship. However, if your husband only had a one night stand, then, I can see moving past that, and I think it would eventually be forgivable. I have heard of other couples in which 1 of the people in the relationship was forgiven by the spouse for having cheating, and it still worked out for them in the end. If your husband had an affair for months, that's something that's hard to forgive. A one night stand is a mistake or bad decision, but an affair is a whole different situation. To do that means that he totally disrespected you and ignored your feelings, and he didn't treat you like a human being should be treated. He basically treated your marriage like it's garbage, which isn't right. I think you have a right to feel the way you do.

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