I am really struggling. I keep going back and forth with my

I am really struggling. I keep going back and forth with my feelings. One day I can forgive him and move on. The next day (or sometimes minute) I can’t get the Devi station of what my partner has done. He cheated for a majority of our relationship. All just sexual partners. Not a relationship. But not only did he cheat. He put my life and my sons life at risk by bringing these random people he met offline into our home... sometimes while we were both there and sleeping. I can’t get the thoughts out of my head. I can’t stop thinking how blind I was when I knew something was “off” but never suspected he would cheat. I had FULL 100% trust in him and now it’s gone. It’s been months and while I feel like there are definitely amazing days - there are definitely awful days too. Last night I cried myself to sleep at 6pm. He is sorry. And he is working on so many things. SO many. I know he was relieved and I know that a lot comes with the cheating... it’s not usually just because someone “feels like it”.

How long has it been since you found out? How do you get through the tough days? Do you regret staying if you stayed?

I just found this group last night and another member helped a lot just by saying a few words. I thought it would be good to get more insight and support to help keep the positive thoughts and vibes come my way. Even if it’s not necessarily positive, honesty is always welcome.

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Jan 17

@Isaiah4031 Thank you, I will look for that specific group. I agree about the long road ahead. It’s part of the reason why I had to question if I would stay or not. I just know that if it happens again, I will find out. It’s only a matter of time. And then it would be the end. That is what I’ve made peace with so far. Thanks for the support.

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Jan 17

You are welcome. The name is friends and family of sex addicts as well as a more general friends and family of addicts. Sadly the patterns of denial and hurting others is very similar between drug and sex addiction but I believe the hurt caused by sexual addiction tends to be much more gut wrenching and harder to deal with. Good luck and I hope you have a good day.

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Jan 17

@Isaiah4031 Actually, I am in recovery from drug addiction. Ten years. Way before I even met my partner. It is actually part of why I have decided to stay. Because I know how an addiction can take over your life and make you become someone even you do not recognize yourself. The hurt and pain I caused is unimaginable. Yet, there are many people in my life, who not only forgave me but supported me along the way and mention how proud they are of me even today. This conversation has helped me. I think I lost sight of that for a while. I had forgotten that is part of the reason why I stayed.

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