Hi. Very newly separated and feeling raw My wife of 30 ye

[1205]

Hi. Very newly separated and feeling raw

My wife of 30 years has been cheating on me on and off over the last 5 years. Every time I catch her she says it's the last. Caught her on Monday and told her to go. Then Tuesday asked what will she do and she said I'm going to him. So cleared the house Tuesday. Haven't slept for three days can't work. Just keep running stuff round my head. Cycling between love and hate. We are talking and she is letting me stay in the house with our adult sons. She even offered help with the bills. I just don't understand what she expects to gain. I can't understand how she hid this last time for more than six months. We had a normal sex life how could she do that knowing she wanted to be with him , who she says she hasn't slept with yet. I'm so angry and confused. I realise I'm better off without the lies as they have drivien me mad over the 5 years but I still love and want her. How do I move on.

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Kas1966's picture
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Dec 11

@MawUk just breathe and enjoy every minute of happy that comes your way.

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[14250]
Dec 11

@MawUk I agree with Kas1966. Just enjoy. Don't overthink. Really enjoy this early part of your relationship. Be a romantic. Focus on getting to know each other. Lots of cuddling and talking. Maybe even set limits on how far you will take things each date. I would say often the best part of sex is the anticipation anyway. Tease each other a little.

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[1205]
Dec 11

I thank you for your comments and that is what we are going to do we do talk a lot and have discussed it and are happy to take our time I just worry that I’m not fulfilling my end but I am and always have been a romantic she really loves my poems and I love giving her little gifts. Flowers and a special photo of us and taking her to new places and doing new things we both agree we have all th time in the world for the other to happen. I was not in a good place this morning but am coming out of it. Thank you you guys for all your support and wise words xx

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