Hi. Very newly separated and feeling raw My wife of 30 ye


Hi. Very newly separated and feeling raw

My wife of 30 years has been cheating on me on and off over the last 5 years. Every time I catch her she says it's the last. Caught her on Monday and told her to go. Then Tuesday asked what will she do and she said I'm going to him. So cleared the house Tuesday. Haven't slept for three days can't work. Just keep running stuff round my head. Cycling between love and hate. We are talking and she is letting me stay in the house with our adult sons. She even offered help with the bills. I just don't understand what she expects to gain. I can't understand how she hid this last time for more than six months. We had a normal sex life how could she do that knowing she wanted to be with him , who she says she hasn't slept with yet. I'm so angry and confused. I realise I'm better off without the lies as they have drivien me mad over the 5 years but I still love and want her. How do I move on.

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Kas1966's picture
Jan 25

@MawUk so happy to hear from you especially the loving life part. My sleep comes and goes feel like I have aged ten years since dday. I just think it takes time for your mind and body to heal through such a trauma we have gone through but when happiness returns I think it speeds up the healing.

devastatedinptbo's picture
Jan 25

So glad you are doing well! I’m really happy for you. I haven’t had to use a RX yet for sleep...a lot of cardio exercise and yoga seems to work most of the time so far. Also going to restart my mindfulness meditation practice.

Cantfindmyway's picture
Jan 25

Ouch..and i so understand, my health failed me and so did the.love of my life at a.time when i so needed him. But i can say it is life after the devastation.


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