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Hi everyone. Well where do I start...... the last year of

Hi everyone.

Well where do I start...... the last year of my life has been very complicated. Last may I moved out of the family home believing my wife had fallen out of love with me and taking me for granted.

A week and a half past and she begged me to try again, she said if there was no one else what reason do I have to give up.

So I agreed, i was commited to being apart from the marital home for a year due to a rental agreement I had made prior to leaving but we both agreed we would be faithful!

Fast forward to November 24th and things were going great (imo) our respect for one another had come back, I felt appreciated, our love life was magical again and everything seemed on course for me to move back in spring 2019.

However my wife went out on this night for a drink with some people from work, I was working nights and I'd asked her to call me to say she had got home safely. She called me prior to that call to say she was extremely drunk and would be going home soon.

When she called me later I remember asking her to make sure she was in the house before getting me off the phone, she seemed to want to get me off the phone before going into the house which I found strange but didn't question it as she said the taxi driver was making sure she got inside the door.

Then in mid December she tells me out of the blue, that May is coming around quickly and she's not sure if she is ready for me to move back.
I said to her to not worry and that I thought things were going great but that if I needed to I had an option for another year on my apartment but that wasn't what I wanted but that we didn't have to rush.

Christmas comes and goes and we had a great time, then mid January she drops the bomb she doesn't want to be with me anymore. I'm completely devastated, broken hearted, I begged her to go to marriage counselling with me and that if there was no one else why not (same thing she used on me) she still refused but was adamant there is no one else.

Anyway I found one of her work colleagues on fb (who she had told me to block) and asked if she knew why my wife would want to end our marriage.

Her reply was that she has been f**king her boss and that apparently she gives him b** jobs in the car on a Friday (her boss is 53 and she is 33 and she's never been the type of girl who likes or does that sort of act in our marriage maybe 4 times in 10 years). So I confront her with these messages and she tells me the woman has been sacked as she is an alcoholic (this is true) and that my wife had made a statement which was used to sack said woman and that this is her revenge, she said her boss is old enough to be her dad and that she wouldn't cheat on me, swore on the kids and the eyes didn't blink when she told me.

I believed her!

Move forward to February 12th and we had just had an amazing day out together we spent the whole day shopping, fancy meal, enjoying each others company and made love that night, everything seemed perfect. The next day she goes to work and im not at work until the evening, she returns from work, takes me outside and confesses that she had sex with her boss, in our house, in our bed, said she was so drunk she didn't know what she was doing and that she has regretted it ever since, but all the other accusations are untrue.

When I add things up there were some days where she worked late, the seat in the car was at a funny angle and the informant was telling the truth about them having sex, although she implied more than once.

I just can't seem to let go of the fact my wife is probably still lying to me about how much actually happened as she knows that the oral sex for me would be a bigger deal than the intercourse, purely because she won't do it with me.

I just don't know what to do, I know I can forgive, I love this woman I'm just broken inside

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Mar 26

That's tough. I've been through a similar heart break! One thing I can offer is that you will get over it! It helps speed up the healing if you see a professional like a pastor or mentor. Healing will come. Forgiveness will happen. Have you tried reaching out to a counselor, mentor or pastor?

MrBrains's picture
Mar 26

If you ever want the truth you are going to have to file for Divorce. She will not come clean without it. BTW yes she did everything with him that she does with you, at the least. That's the truth.

MrBrains's picture
Mar 26

@BrokenMan1986 She will lie forever, or until you file. I have plenty of experience with this, believe me. I was married for 25 years to a woman just like your wife. PM me if you really want to talk. I've got the truth for you.


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