Hey all, been 10months since d-day and things have not seeme

Hey all, been 10months since d-day and things have not seemed to have got better, i wanted to ask how people deal with the intrusive thoughts?
I am not as intoxicated as much now so i dont overthink every thought but i still have nightmares of my wife with others, random thoughts in the day of her betrayal, paranoid thoughts shes speaking to other men, all her compliments i dont believe and its impacting me at work, when out and at home. Really feel i need to leave my wife so i can get my mental health back to where t should be

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chas188's picture
Nov 17

@JP1313 time i am 1 year and 8 months out still have thoughts but not as bad still need healing. I also think how our WS deals with it do they help us heal makes a difference so wild how we are traunatized yet they made the choices but we suffer more consequences. It will get better once you take more focus over you sounds like your doing that exercise distraction is the name of the game. I started treating myself yo the spa alone using the time for me its a process though never ending gets better but its not a tire blow out or a hammer like oh crap this is trauma no easy fix

Kas1966's picture
Nov 17

@Leahzan you are correct. It's taken almost 5 years to rebuild. Is it the fairy tale marriage I thought I had prior to dday. NOPE! But it is a marriage that is real. It has It's up and downs but we are both equally invested.


Really sorry for what you are going through. Perhaps you can find a Pastor or counselor to pray over your marriage and give you perspective on what to do next. There are some great marriage seminars out there - if you think that would help. They help couples get reconnected and strengthen their relationship - by working together and not against each other. Prayers for your situation! God Bless!


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