Hello group...I am at a lost. I posted a few weeks ago. I fo

Hello group...I am at a lost. I posted a few weeks ago. I found out this past week that my husband had an affair with a 29 year old. He is 53. I found out this fling occurred in 2016. He travels overseas often and the affair was with the hotel clerk. I suspected something at that time and confirmed that there was nites out to the movies. He stated he was helping to "mentor" her with career choices and there was nothing to this "relationship". Flash forward to 2018 and the aching feeling that would not leave me. I got a hold of his phone and saw that they were still communicating. She no longer works in the hotel nor does she live in that country anymore. She returned home to India. In the text I read the other day..i saw pictures of the two of them...text reminiscing about nites she spent the night etc. He purchased gifts for her and and had date nites. When he traveled there he was always there from 7 to 10 days. He would visit there every two months. Stupid me told him he had to stop communicating with her and he stated he would. Well he called and she didnt answer. I ended up texting her (i know i should not have) and she stated there was nothing goin on now. She stated that at one time there was BUT she thought he was separated and he said he lived in the house and wouldnt move because of our children. Our children are 20 and 21. Then she went on to call me insecure for SNOOPING in his phone and too bad he didnt respect me or that I was not strong enough to command respect. I am very numb and dont know what to do. He says she is lying about some of the things. He says he is sorry and wants to go to counseling. I dont know what to do!

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Apr 19

@smhurt2009 Do you think I should tell him that she contacted me?

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Apr 19

@lostinemotions
Consider yourself lucky to get some kind of apology from the ow. In my situation I know the ow and haven't heard from her, even though we were starting a friendship. Mind you, she's still with my h. I wouldn't respond to her text, just move forward.

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12 hours ago

@Shattered18 Yes I guess I should. She was such a witch to me last week. I dont know why the change of heart. I am wondering if he contacted her and told her to to do it

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