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Hello Everyone, This is my first time even considering some

Hello Everyone,
This is my first time even considering something like this but I'd like to break the cycle I've been putting my wife through. I haven't been unfaithful, but I've been texting female friends behind her back and she has seen my messages. Like I said, all innocent messages but I'd love to hear what you all suggest because I don't want to continue this cycle of hurting her the way I have. I just want to be turned around from trying to do sneaky things. Thank you all

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Steven84's picture
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Oct 15

@BrokenMan75 that’s a great suggestion but if it was that easy I’d had already done it. I text my wife daily and show her attention EVERY day so it’s much harder than stopping texting other women. When I find the root cause of the issue only then will this whole problem be solved. Thank you for your advice though!

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devastatedinptbo's picture
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Oct 15

@Steven84 Maybe it’s a deep seated self confidence issue that stems from early years in your life. This is part of my husband’s issues that he is learning about in therapy. He feels a need to be externally validated by others in order to feel “good enough “. He is learning to feel confident and secure for himself, as a result of listening to his inner voice and making choices that align with his moral values. I always thought he was a very confident guy, but have come to realize that really he just had a lot of bravado and arrogance which masked his insecurities.

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Steven84's picture
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Oct 15

@devastatedinptbo it’s so funny you say that I know that has at least a little to do with it (if not more). It crossed my mind when I dated a lot of women after my first divorce I was curious to know if me being picked on by girls at an early age made me search for validation from every woman I met. Which I may subconsciously just let things go further searching for that validation. I will certainly ask at my counseling session

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