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Hello all new to the group, basically my wife of 9 years che

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Hello all new to the group, basically my wife of 9 years cheated I forgave and took her back. But now she says the last 2 &1/2 years she says she hasn't wanted to be with me anymore. So I feel like its time for me to go and give her the space she wants but we have 2 kids 2/7GB. But the kicker is she wants me to stay so she will be financially stable and have me around to keep doing the same thing iv'e been doing for the last 7 years witch is watching the kids and taking care of home. I feel guilty for wanting to get my life back on track bc iv'e stopped everything to make sure my family was taken care of. But I have a disable mother in the mix who goes to dialysis 3X a week and iv'e been unemployed for 6 years. so i just feel like its a no win situation for me bc i'm basically choosing between my mother and my kids. i just need help i have a lot going on and i don't feel like it getting any better, only worse as the days go by.

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Jun 14

Are there any back to work or education supports in your area? Could you retrain to get back into employment not only to earn money and be financially stable but it would do your self esteem so much good to be working and rewarded for that work. Feeling like you are achieving something can be healing in itself.

Asking you to stay in the home to provide a nice stable life for her to go out and date other men is asking too much of anyone.

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Jun 15

Update caught her cheating again with a new guy, so i'm out and this literally happened today 6/15/2018 at 12 midnight. so thank you all for the support but i know what i gotta do now.

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Jun 15

I'm so sorry you and your lovely children had your life turned upside down like this. With your being the homemaker and full time dad, I'm sure you may have a better shot than most dads at custody of the kids if you end up splitting up. I'm not sure about all the details of your situation. But I'm wondering why you need to choose between your mother and the children? Why not just take the kids and stay home with them and your disabled mother and force the cheater to pay for child support and alimony. With that in mind maybe you could even kick the cheater out and get the house with the kids and mother. I pray you have access to a good lawyer either way. Whatever your decisions please don't let her take you to the cleaners. She sounds like a real wonderful person (eye roll).

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