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@Brokenbyhim
My husband said he was unfaithful because he felt unloved & unwanted by me. Which is sad. So of course, I blamed myself. But after years of therapy I found out that cheating is a choice. No one can make you cheat. So that if my husband truly felt this way-then he needed to communicate that to me. I did communicate to him on many occasions that I had felt a disconnection from him-& asked if he would consider going to therapy with me. He told me no. He said that he wasn’t going to go sit in front of some stranger & talk about our marital problems. I was juggling 3 children under the age of 3 at the time…our youngest was only a few months old. I was really consumed with trying to be a mother to my children that I really didn’t push the issue like I should have. I should have insisted that we either went to therapy or else. I had told him that I thought our marriage was dissolving before our very eyes…and that we would soon be headed for divorce. That didn’t seem to phase him. As his affair continued on for over a year. I’m not going to lie…I picked up on stuff here & there & had my suspicions…but I never wanted to face the reality of finding out, so I tried really hard to not investigate further. It wasn’t until I received an anonymous letter in the mail that confirmed everything that I was pretty confident that I already knew. 10 years later…& I’m finally ready to file for divorce. In my situation I could never really forgive him & let it go. Although, I did try…and he did try in the beginning as well, but just when we start to move forward I always end up taking 10 steps back. I still til this day have triggers of the affair-along with nightmares. I really stayed this long for all the wrong reasons. One being because I wanted to be a “happy family” & have my children grow up in an environment with both parents present. They were soo young at the time…that I wasn’t wanting to share them on weekends & holidays. But now that my children are getting older & more & more independent-I feel like I can finally feel ok with letting that feeling of sharing them go.