Feeling somewhat overwhelmed but in a good way. I retire in

Kas1966's picture
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Feeling somewhat overwhelmed but in a good way. I retire in 7 weeks, sons are moving out next week and we are putting our house up for sale hopefully next month. So much change but I'm ok with it (usually I don't like change) but I think this is a great change for us.

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FreeWill2Go's picture
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May 13

@Kas1966 I wish that lady reached out to someone too. She seemed to be very humble with a sweet and delicate kind of personality and introverted, but she was always on top of her game in the scope of her professional responsibilities and etiquette. The only time we crossed paths was when I conducted an inspection on one of the programs that she managed, and I walked away without any discrepancies, which is impressive. On one or two occasions, she talked with a lady who was one of my subordinates in my work center who was the same rank as her. I do not poke my nose in other people’s business, but when I texted a former friend and mentor about it after hearing the news of her death, my mentor confirmed everything and told me he knew she had problems, especially at home, but our superiors supposedly were getting her the help she needed.

Maybe they didn't care, but I did. That happened more than 5 years ago, and I still remember her name, and her face, which is sad.

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FreeWill2Go's picture
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May 13

@Kas1966 It is good that you did not see it through with doing the dreadful deed, and I’m sure that your sons are very happy to have mom in their lives. Plus, the World is a better place with you in it because you never know how many lives you have affected with your guidance, your insight, your actions, or with your feedback. You should always take the time to enjoy life by doing the things that you love and break the monotony of your daily routine. Ask yourself, what have you always wanted to do, but could never bring yourself around to doing that. Then, just do it for yourself, and not for others. Enjoy life because you only live once, and there are too many things and conditions in this World that can result in your untimely demise which are beyond your control.

Old habits die hard, and I get that. We are all creatures of habit, and our brains are wired like video recorders. The way you grew up is a piece of your history, and a “piece” of who you are, but it does not define the whole you in your entirety. It is like the piece of a jigsaw puzzle; without that 1 piece, you still have a jigsaw puzzle, but it is incomplete. When you were growing up, there were parenting techniques that were considered acceptable back then, which are condoned in this era, due to the psychological impact on the child. We are human beings, not robots, or punching bags, and likewise, people should be verbally counseled, not put on blast at maximum volume, or turned into a target. For most of the issues that emerge, it is not worth getting angry over them. At some point, someone needs to break the cycle of abuse, and it sounds like you did that, which is commendable. Will Power is a true sign of inner strength, no pun intended.

In modern times, it is hard to be the ideal parent with so many responsibilities that consume the bulk of our time, leaving little opportunity for family bonding. Regretfully, I will admit that I could have been a better father to my youngest son, though I was never abusive to him.

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Kas1966's picture
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May 13

@FreeWill2Go I have been working on not judging people, looking for the good in people (sometimes thats a hard one) and trying to always do a good deed of the day. I'm doing this for myself. I have to.

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