Earlier in the week I flipped out and interrupted a work mee

Earlier in the week I flipped out and interrupted a work meeting - it didn't sound like a meeting and I was worried he was still talking to the other woman - my husband went mad at me and now says he doesn't know if he's happy enough to stay. I've tried to make a conscious decision to forgive, I put my wedding rings back on....he says he doesn't want to put his back on and he feels that I've only put mine on because he said he doesn't know if he wants to stay. He's also said about us not being intimate much so now I've tried he's saying that it feels forced. Where am I going wrong???? I feel I can't do anything right :(

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Feb 23

It sounds like you still havn't forgiven him and don't trust him. You are not alone. Just leaving him isn't going to solve the problem. You will carry your anger into your next relationship. Both of you need to seek a good marriage counselor whose goal is to restore your marriage. Many marriages have gone through what you are going through and have been restored. Yours can to. It is possible to forgive.

I love what this author wrote on forgiveness - Forgiveness doesn’t let the other person off the hook. It actually places them in God’s hands. And then, as you walk through the forgiveness process, it softens your heart. The peace from forgiveness is more satisfying then than revenge. The person isn't my real enemy The Devil is. Oh, friend, the heartbreaks you carry are enormous. And your desire to undo some of what has been done is so very understandable. It’s okay to carry both the desire to want things to change and an acceptance that on this side of eternity they won’t change. You can carry both. You can honor both. Our ability to heal cannot depend on others wanting our forgiveness, but only on our willingness to give it. Our ability to heal also cannot depend on them receiving adequate consequences for their disobedience, but only on our obedience to trust God’s justice whether we ever see it or not. By Lisa Turkhurst

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Feb 23

@SoCal2LI thank you, really working on trying to forgive

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Feb 24

@broken2021

You got it. I am glad you have hope and are taking care of you. In your posting, it sounds like your anxiety therapy is really really working! Great job!

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