Does cheating ruin your life? Why is infidelity so painful?

I cheated on my husband and it ruined my life. My husband has saved me so many times throughout our marriage and I took him for granted. I was young and stupid and didn't understand what kind of man i had. My husband stood by my side and showed me what true love really is, he never gave up on me and never stopped trying to make me feel better. He has always been a rock for me and for everyone who knows him. I have changed my life because of him and i owe it all to him. He will tell you that it was all me and that he had nothing to do with it because thats how he is, but truth is i'm nothing without him. We have made it through and we have managed to create a better life for us and for our daughter. neither of us gave up and we both fought as hard as we could to save what we had. My husband is IAMTITANIUM. This is my first post on this site, I read it regularly but never comment because he pretty much says it all, but I just wanted to let him know how much i love and appreciate him. I am beyond sorry for what i've done and will spend the rest of my life making it up to you, you are my best friend, my knight in shining armour, and my one true love. You are Titanium, and I am forever yours. I love you Jay.

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Sep 24, 2015

This was nice to read. I'm in a situation where I cheated on the man I love more than anything in the world. I don't know why I did it I feel like it was an out of body experience. I tools the greatest love and tossed it away. He wants to forgive me but his love was so pure and innocent in scared he can't or I'm scared that he's better with someone else someone less selfish. People have said I ruined him. I don't know what to do I don't even know myself anymore I could never fathom myself being physical with someone else and I let the long distance relationship get in the way two months before it would have gotten better. Please share any advice. I'm so lost. Thank you.

Sep 24, 2015

@LuckyLady So nice to read you story and so happy for you. but how long did it take you to get in a present condition. Please help as i am too in the same situation as you were before.

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Sep 24, 2015

Be remorseful and show it....titanium was a mess for a long time. Yes he is a good guy but she was remorseful and gave him time to gather himself. My wife has not shown it that much and our early recovery was in part due to my assistance from titanium. However I struggle still and much of that is due to not building trust with my wife. She is hurting and proud, feels the reasons for cheating are partly due to me. Yes I take responsibility for part of the relationship problems but the cheating was 100% her poor choice. Remorse is it until he says stop.


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