Does anyone else's significant other self sabotage? Anyone t

Does anyone else's significant other self sabotage? Anyone that had read my previous post knows our situation or the majority of it. We've been having a good few days and I've been waiting for something to happen. Well tonight he just randomly gets nasty with me and I feel like he realizes we are doing good and pushes me away. Why? Why whenever we are doing good, laughing and smiling together does he do this? Why can't he just let us be happy even if it's just for a moment? It hurts my feelings more than he will ever know. I don't know why I let myself be happy, it always ends in disappointment. Can never have more than 2 good days someone always has to shove me back down into the sadness. I'm really tired of being sad and miserable.

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Leahzan's picture
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Jun 8

@L00singitall I shared my journaling with my husband with hopes of being transparent and to spark conversation. It has the opposite effect. Facing my feelings was too much. The process wasn't important to him, so he didn't value me sharing it. Also, journaling is a process and he would hold on to something I wrote and then never let me get beyond it. In retrospect, I would have just let him know it was available if he wanted to read it. He wouldn't have, but me making him read it wasn't positive either.

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L00singitall's picture
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Jun 8

@John99 Yeah saying that there will only be good days would be crazy. Even people in relationships that haven't gone through something like this have bad days. It's choosing to still look for the good days is what makes it special. Yeah I could of given up but I don't want to I am fighting for something I truly believe in and for someone I love more than he'll ever know. And because of that I won't throw in the towel I will continue to be here. I read a quote a while back and it says "an arrow can only be shot by pulling it backwards, when life is dragging you back with difficulty It means it's going to launch you into something great".

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L00singitall's picture
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Jun 8

@Leahzan My husband would probably have the same reaction if I tired to make him read it. But to be honest he surprised me by asking if he could read it. And I honestly don't know if I ever want him to read it. Like I said in the comment before, I write in my journal as if I'm talking to him because I am comfortable talking to him. Talking to him always makes me feel better. He truly is my best friend. He just lost himself along the way and I am hoping he can find himself again. But I have hope.

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