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What’s everyone’s feelings on porn? You’re ok with it?

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What’s everyone’s feelings on porn? You’re ok with it? It ruins a marriage?

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Oct 31

I think that watching porn is like drinking alcoholic beverages. If you do it in moderation, it gets the blood flowing, allows the person watching it to be able to escape reality by visualizing their fantasies that have been suppressed, and it gets the viewer excited and motivated while creating a sense of euphoria. Refraining from viewing porn would be a total snooze fest, and life would lose its zest. Believe me, I tried it, I lost all of my excitement to the point that I was trying to figure out why I should continue living anymore. There was no intrinsic motivator, since the cycle was the same every day (eat, sleep, and work). Life is full of physical limitations and restraints, which makes it depressing. When I tried pursuing Bhuddism as a religion, I stopped watching it all together, but I didn't have any intrinsic motivators to make me ambitious or keep me going; I became unemotional, and I lost my interest in money, lust, drinking alcoholic beverages, and all worldly desires, which made life dull and boring. On the other hand, watching too much of it is certainly unhealthy and can turn into a mental illness that causes the addict to loose his or her grip on reality, while causing the viewer to make decisions and commit to actions that would be unethical or immoral. Maybe saving it for those bad days or rainy days when you need something to boost your spirit and help peak your interest wouldn't be a bad idea. For many of the people in society, it's all a matter of behavioral economics; people want what they can't have because society condones that type of behavior and places restrictions on it, which creates value.

Everyone has a desire to try something new, something different, and something exciting which stimulates different chemicals in the brain and different parts of the brain like the amygdala, and what each person does with those fantasies can be the make or break in a relationship. Personally, I tried watching porn with my spouse one time, and it was weird, more like a total buzz kill that turned everything off. This might sound a little absurd, but if porn is the issue, you could always try indulging in your spouse's fantasies by dressing up in costumes and doing some acting or role playing in the bedroom, and that might help him or her dissolve the porn addiction. One Halloween many years ago, after our kids finished trick or treating and went to bed, my wife and I did a little role playing while we were still in costume, and it was a lot of fun that turned up the heat. Costumes and role playing is a good way to kill the craving for porn, and keep the spark alive in your relationship in my opinion.

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Oct 30

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it stay between the two of you. I'm against bringing anyone in from the outside for any reason and in any way.

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Oct 30

Once the other person starts comparing you to those in the porn, it should stop.

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