So yesterday I'm trying to show 3 and 5 year old pics of my

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So yesterday I'm trying to show 3 and 5 year old pics of my brother that passed to help their memory. Wife suggest our daughters 4th bd party. I do that sure enough pic is there. However what happens next where I need support. The date on oic shows and I realize was a date my wife was with AP right after party. I did not say anything but felt horrible and angry. But only shared sadness with wife. She asked y did I search the date and connect a good day with that . I said I did not search the date reality is it happened and while she claims she does not remember any dates ( i believe her) i do think significant that most her cheating at big events family events this one hurt because she claims never intended to do this or hurt but how is that not intention pre meditated? I tgought we were connected that day but feels like it was all fake. Anyhow brought it to marriage therapy but am I overreacting? Can anyone relate. I know loss of brother more sensitivity but geeze she acts sweet she seemed mean vindictive and all the gas lighting she did im finally processing my true anger that's really with her

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Jun 10

You have the right to your feelings and if something triggers you that is ok. After finding out i did some digging. I think all of us do that. Going through old bills I saw her in contact with him on days like our anniversary, our kids birthday's, and others. The one that really hurt was my birthday last year. She was coming back from being out of town on business. I got a text in the morning. But seeing that she called him before me killed me. I share this so I can tell you this. You are not overreacting.

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chas188's picture
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Jun 10

@John99 wow I also don't feel alone now

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John99's picture
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Jun 10

@chas188
Your not. Always remember that. I know its tough when your grieving from such a huge loss. But there are people who understand.

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