I've been with my wife for 8 years. I've had 2 affairs in th

I've been with my wife for 8 years. I've had 2 affairs in that time, each lasting about 1 year. I'm not sure our marriage will survive this one. What I've done has completely destroyed her, after having worked on recovering from the 1st affair, this one is so much worse.
I've done lots of soul searching and reading. I've come to realize I've been a cheater my entire life. I know I need some professional help now. Some aspects of Sex Addiction fit with what I do. Narcissism and Sociopath are mixed in there also.
I'm here to confess and talk openly with people who are going through the same types of things. Either from the side of the betrayer or the betrayed.
Thanks for your thoughts.

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Jul 21

@ConstantStruggle My H says the same things as you have regarding your wife. I'm very happy to hear that you finally understand you're WHY was because you stopped focusing on your wife and putting her first. My H also stopped defending me to his worthless relatives. That's what caused him to stop focusing on me. I hope things will be able to finally work out for the two of you. Joe Beem has a radio show that you might enjoy. God Bless

Jul 21

@ConstantStruggle wow thank you so much. I appreciate you taking the time to write back to me , you have no idea how much that helped. I truly hope you can over come your inner issues and find happiness again with your wife and family. I know ppl make mistakes but I wish you the best of luck

Aug 3

my husband has never been faithful to me but I didn't discover it until we were married for 5 years. we are still together but I don't believe he care or loves me. If he did he would not have even thought of looking at other women or men for that matter. He hurt me deeply. he took away everything I thought was real in my life. I no longer have any self-esteem, I constantly look at his phone and computer searching for other women, My time is spent trying to keep my sanity. He wrote reviews on his escorts which were explicit and damaging to my soul. I have only asked him one question, why? I am still searching for the answer as he just tells me that it is not about me. He is wrong it is totally about me. I am the only person who got hurt. I am the only person he betrayed and lied to. My life is in shambles. So If you are worried about your marriage, you should be, but maybe you should have once considered someone elses feelings before your own. Tell her the truth and never, never lie to her again about anything. If there is a partner in your life you owe that partner nothing less than the truth. And by the way, omission is a lie.

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