I'm having a hard time deciding how big of a problem this is

(9905)
Oct 3 in Infidelity, Relationship, Sex Addiction

I'm having a hard time deciding how big of a problem this is....

As I've posted a few times previously, I think I have a bit of an unhealthy relationship to sex, if not an addiction... I'm 48 and my wife is 40....Now that sex has unfortunately become less frequent in my marriage, I'm struggling with whether my frustration is:
A: a sign that our marriage is struggling due to lack of connection
B: a result of my tendency to place to much importance on sex
C: a result of my tendency to use sex as a barometer for whether she is finding fulfillment elsewhere (she had an affair with her boss about 8 years ago...she still works with him, but she is starting a new job next week)
D: just a normal part of the aging process.... I know that sometimes men can under appreciate how every day life takes a toll on a woman's libido (kids, work, household stuff) etc..... and perhaps I'm just not dealing with it well
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(4060)
Mar 7

@jamiemaddrox2020 All relationships have there up sides and down sides. Right now, I think yours is on the down side. Who knows for how long. And how long you can put up with it. As long as you can live through it, I believe it can only get better. But no idea when. I'm really sorry your going through all this.

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(9905)
Mar 7

@constructionjim Thank you. We have certainly had ups and downs, and I've been responsible for every bit as much of it as she has. I'm just hoping we are moving in the right direction.

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(70)
Mar 8

Well, there's could be many problems within your marriage. Yes, it may be rocky right now, but it'll get better. You should do more things that help keeps your marriage alive and strong. Like with flowers, doing some laundry, or cooking dinner before she gets home from work. Intimacy is more than just sex , connect with your partner other ways and all those things will make yall love making more better. Also, you really haven't forgave for her affair and that's what making yall relationship rocky. When a men knows his woman cheated, he'll never look at her or that relationship the same.

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