It's been a very long time since I was last here. I'm inter

It's been a very long time since I was last here. I'm interested in advice from those who have been separated from their narcissist/cheating ex for a year or so and if you still find you have residual trauma? I am in a new relationship and I find I still have very intense triggers. I get so upset and insecure and have intense emotions from small things like my current bf not wanting to see me this week. I'm curious about how others have managed these triggers and how new relationship partners have been supportive.

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Jun 28

yes, yes and yes. So good to hear from you again. I call it "sober" from my narc for 2 years on June 30th. Triggers still. Certain songs, locals, etc. etc. I found getting on this board and blabbing my thoughts to be helpful. I had to cry on another board just this very night. Helping other folks newly experiencing this trauma is also very therapeutic. It reminds you of what you dealt with and have overcome. Spend time with good friends. Take the focus off of the new guy and keep evolving. Serenity prayer...amazing. But the key is dont make another human your God. Take a look at your own patterns. Take time to look at and continue working on yourself. Im so proud of you and how far you've come!

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Jun 28

@Jack007 I say new but it's been 1.5 years. I definitely feel like he doesn't understand me sometimes. I try to explain but I don't think he does

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Jun 29

@ParisVacay I can imagine that a person that hasn't had the pleasure (sarcasm) of dealing with a personality disorder would have absolutely no idea. I mean, I had no idea. I remember at one point in my life thinking somewhat lowly of people that gave up and got divorces. I used to think, "Oh, you can work it out. You just aren't trying hard enough." How naïve I was. It would be hard for someone to truly understand if they haven't experienced it.

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