Well I went to Texas for Easter vacation with with my husban
Well I went to Texas for Easter vacation with with my husband, it went well. I have laid out boundaries and I am doing my best to enforce those boundaries I I'm working on the best approach on doing that and it is very difficult.. since setting the boundaries I have not yet checked back in to see if those boundaries are being respected the best way to address if anyone has any advice that would be great on how to approach him to see if he is respecting my boundaries I really just don't want to say hey are you getting any text messages did you give out your phone number kind of thing in other words I don't want to start a huge argument. I am going to ask him for passwords our anniversary is this weekend so I am going to wait until after our anniversary in hopes that at least we will have a peaceful weekend but he does know that I have set boundaries and I expect him to respect those boundaries and I have told him that if these boundaries are not respected and he does not accept responsibility for his actions and fix it that there is no chance in our marriage any longer that he has to take accountability for what he has done.. and he really was not happy with that at all I really do believe that he just expected for things to go on and have no accountability whatsoever. I am ever so grateful for every one of you that has been here for me. Thank you so very much and I appreciate your continued advice.
I have started going to counseling every week and it's helpful. It's helped me set boundaries and recognize my being passive and passive aggressive. So I am on a learning experience here also.
No we're not in MC I'm in individual counseling. He doesn't have a counselor. He's claiming he is on board with fixing this. So we will see.
I'm so glad I have the support here and of my counselor. I'm definitely scared to death to have this conversation again because I know how defensive he gets but I also know that I have to. Thanks once again for your advice and support.