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Hi. I found out a couple of weeks ago that I have high risk

Hi. I found out a couple of weeks ago that I have high risk HPV. I've been married 16 years and my husband is the only person I've ever had sex with. My doctor said that it was possible that he'd had it before marriage and that it had been dormant in my body and never caught by a PAP. My husband insisted he has been faithful and claimed he must have got it, pre-marriage, from his former fiance. He says she's the only other person he's slept with. The fiance and I were best friends in high school, and could talk about anything, although we have drifted apart over the years, but I contacted her today. She says she's never had HPV. She had an abnormal PAP once, but they tested further and she did not have HPV. I'm scared. I'm scared of high-risk HPV. I'm scared that my husband is maybe having an affair. I'm sure she would not lie to me. Honestly, I trust her in this more than my husband, but I can't find any other proof on my husband's chats or anything that he's had an affair. The only thing I can think of, is that she's been dormant all these years during PAPs, he caught it, gave it to me, and I've been dormant all these years. That seems to really be a HUGE stretch to me.. Do you think its possible though?

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[66385]
Sep 13

Unfortunately, unless you've actually noticed warts and known when they showed up, you may never know.

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[1835]
Sep 14

The doctors explanation is a very likely explanation of what's happened, even though she had a negative HPV test, her body might have cleared it following a previous infection, and if she's only ever had a pap smear previously how would she ever know about a previous infection.....as alot of high risk HPV infections don't cause any problems . If this is the only thing causing you to doubt your husband then I really don't think you have anything to worry about, I think you can trust him.

You don't need to be scared of the high risk HPV, it's a really common infection, and most people's bodies clear it by themselves. It's just something that needs to be monitored if by some slight chance it did progress to anything else.

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[230]
Sep 14

I agree with Wmilt. My gyno told me he had a 65 year old woman come in that had it from only being with her husband. It is likely that his former fiancé had the virus, but it was dormant. If all her paps came back normal, they do not test for HPV. The test only shows active high risk. I had an abnormal pap last year with no HPV. Then this year I had the same abnormal with high risk HPV. It happens. It sucks. It’s scary, but don’t panic. If you ever need to talk more you can PM me. Or ask any questions! I am waiting to see which high risk I have...

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