So there is this girl in my school and I don't know what I f

So there is this girl in my school and I don't know what I feel about her: I know that I don't like her, I don't want a relationship with her, but she's why all this sh!t started: one time she put her head on my shoulder and my heart started to beat, i felt anxious and scared and in that moment the question "am i gay?" bumped in my head.. I didn't expect what she did, we're not friends, I'm so scared, i don't want to have a crush on her but why i feel anxious every time that I see her? Also she's beauty so my brain tell me that I like her only beacause I think she's beautiful.
I'm so confused...what do you think?

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May 20

@jdd I speak from my personal experience, not from theory. My compulsion to watch old man in pornography drastically decreased when I got what I had been looking for from the person who I perceived as father figure, also I just became secure with my sexual orientation, the transformation that I experienced is proof enough for me to say that a man may suffer from unwanted homesexual behavior due to father figure issue.

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May 20

@jdd what I experienced doesn't have to fit in with any theory from psychology. At times, we can use common sense, trial-and-error to figure out our issue. I can use a theory from psychology as a reference to figure out my issue, but I will not simply take it and blindly believe it like a doctrine. Chance some of theories and idea in psychology are simply hypothesis and not 100% correct, it's a man- made subject thus it can have flaws. Even though that theory is accepted in academia, I will not believe it unless it is 100% correct and supported with concrete evidence. By the way when I shared my experience, I said to the person, "Hey I tried this and it worked for my issue". In the end of the day, it's the person to find out if what I say is true or not, if that person chooses to try what I recommended, that person can see for him/ herself if it works for the person. It's also up to the person to decide if what I said was helpful or not. What I recommended contains no risk, so if the person decides to try what I said, there will be no harm involved.

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May 20

@793anonymous sorry to have misunderstood. I'm skeptical of even many modern psychology today too so it's interesting to see someone else have other theories that don't fit with so-called standard model of psych.

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