Wondering how someone can love or want you with herpes? I w

JayRob40's picture
(4650)
May 21, 2022 in Herpes

Wondering how someone can love or want you with herpes? I will tell you how I made the choice many years ago. I met a wonderful lady who had many qualities I admired and enjoyed. She also had HSV and told me she had it. I did some research and found it isn’t fatal, doesn’t cause cancer, is easily treatable and is most often so mild you don’t know you have it. I am no knight in shining armor but I would definitely not be the sharpest tool in the shed if I passed on an awesome life partner because I was afraid of a case of intimate acne. What is a few painful if untreated zits compared to a lifetime of happiness with someone who makes you happy? If I had only been interested in a good time I might have not taken a chance but I chose to pursue a lifetime of happiness with a few treatable intimate bumps along the road because the good greatly outweighed the bad. I can’t recommend or condemn dating sites that would help you find someone else with the same condition but I can say that someone who would be a good life partner would not pass you by because of bad hype over something that isn’t nearly that bad. Finding one night stands who want to take the risk will be harder. Finding out someone is selfish and only after what they can get from you is a lot easier when you observe how they react to finding out. When someone who likes you for who you are and how happy you both are when together finds out you will know you found someone worthy of your heart by observing their reaction. Someone who wants to see you smile because it warms their heart and who wants to make you laugh just to enjoy the beautiful sound will still want to see you smile and hear you laugh for the same reasons. To sum this up someone will want you because of who you are and HSV will be a side note like birth control or acne medication. The person who will make you happy will want you because of who you are, anything else is just a waste of time that could be spent finding or being with the one who treasures you just as you are. Good luck on your journey to happiness!

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JayRob40's picture
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Sep 12

@SunflowerMeadow I am glad that I could help you see the truth, that you are a valuable and worthy person. Never let anyone try to tell you otherwise. As far as normal I have read a lot of different estimates, and the consensus is that something like half of all people have HSV, yes half of humanity. Most people are never tested so it is difficult to to get accurate numbers and different groups have different rates but half of all people is an often used statistic. The difference is that you know. You also know now that it is only a minor skin condition, that is why so many have it and never know. There is a saying that beauty is more than skin deep. Your worth and value aren't determined by your skin or appearance, but by your heart and soul, things that can't be measured or known by a test. Your concern for others and caring tells me you are a truly beautiful and worthy person. I wish you the best of luck and encourage you to read the posts and hopefully help support others. We are all here to support each other. Good luck.

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SunflowerMeadow's picture
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Sep 13

@JayRob40Thank you so much, I will save your message and read it when I need reassurance, I am blessed by your words. May God bless you.

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JayRob40's picture
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Sep 13

@SunflowerMeadow You are very welcome if my words have helped you, but they are simply the truth. We are all beloved children of our Creator, even if we sometimes loose sight of that.
Thank you for your kind words and blessing.

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