Hey guys ... my lover has got distant again i of course ****

[1930]

Hey guys ... my lover has got distant again i of course assumed it was because he I transmitted herpes to him not on purpose.. anyway this distant has nothing to do with herpes... it's about his fear of getting to close to me.. he is afraid to love.. I do believe he got feelings for for me & he scared not about herpes.... just need to express how I was feeling to someone. Well I m tired of his bs ... I deserve someone that is on the same page as myself.. i don't have time for this.. I'm done but I'm so disappointed we been through a lot together ...disappointed

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[1930]
Aug 13

@Henrietta606 ... No that's not the case.. it's not just physical distance it's emotional as well.. he fears commitment.. the longer we see each other the more emotional involve & he does want to be hurt ...he fears hurt & disappointed ... he expects hurt so he get out before he can get hurt.. put it like this he is emotionally unavailable to any & all women because he doesn't trust women.. baggage from his past

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[10020]
Aug 13

My bf was similar. He was afraid and would emotionally withdraw for days. It was a sickening roller coaster ride. I also wanted to leave many times, but I stuck with him, because we have a strong connection and have been through a lot. He has opened up to me seeing that I'm not just going to leave him. I did give him H but I am not with him because I feel obligated or guilty. (I do feel guilty about it... but that's not why I've chosen to stick with him.) I love him and there is no other for me. I'm not saying you should stay with him, you know what is best for you. Sometimes though the hard things in life are the most rewarding if we stick with it. I wonder why he dates if he isn't looking for someone....

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Aug 13

I even recommend trying to have some counseling for him in relationships

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