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I have been really bothered by my ex raping me and giving me

I have been really bothered by my ex raping me and giving me herpes. I had the anniversary of my trauma a couple months ago and it brought up so many emotionals. I want to challenge the police investigator or the police for claiming my ex actions as a class c misdemeanor, but I don't know how to do any of that or the money resources. I don't even know if my ex knows that I filed a report. I don't think it's right he gave me herpes when he knew he had it, or feel like he had the right to rape me. If anyone has any suggestions on how to handle this or what I could do? I just hate doing nothing

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Sep 12

@ScorpioWomen1920 I have a loving boyfriend 7 years after leaving. I sometimes can’t believe it and don’t always feel I deserve it but nobody hurts me like that anymore. I have to see my ex for kid stuff. It’s disgusting because he plays the victim to our kids, even tells them he’s so nice to me and doesn’t understand why I don’t like him. Confuses our kids. The only thing he has left to get to me is through them. He’s sick like that.

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Sep 16

@Lethergo2 I'm sorry for you and your kids. I hope some day your kids will see their truth and have a happy life. I also have a boyfriend of almost 3 years. He's my best friend but we still run into issues. I'm still greatly that I'm still in a better situation than before with my ex.

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Oct 15

i'm sorry this happened to you ScorpioWomen and LetHerGo. I had a run in with a narcisist and i've been very damanaged. i was raped and given herpes. but i didn't realise it was rape because i was raped at 15, and 16, and abused as a child, and i realised that i had normalised me saying no to something and it happening anyway against my will. as that was normal. i realised it was the law after i started having therapy after i have been very unwell, and my head very screwed up from the last relationship with a narc, and beginning to realise that i'm carrying alot of shame that doesn't belong to me. so the process of giving it back and realising i'm not a bad person, involves getting justice, and having these experiences validated. but i'm struggling with navigating the legal aspects. i've got some help from a sexual violence service. One thing that was said that really riled me is that i don't have to go through with reporting it to the police as i don't need to be an activist. but the laws are already in place right, so why does that make me an activist for trying to unhold laws that already exist. i am really struggling to know what to do as i know i will probably be torn apart in court, victim blamed, and i know how depressing the rape conviction statistics are. and it is my word against his. and he has already convinced a community of people that he is the victim here.
I have posted a comment in the herpes group just today. i am uk based so the legal advice might be different

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