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I've ever been in the relationship with my partner for 3year

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I've ever been in the relationship with my partner for 3years. I love her so much. Then some day she realized that she had to get marry with a man. Now her feeling and behavior toward is not the samw like 3years ago. But we are still keep contact. We still hang out together at the weekend. She's still depend on me. When she had a bad time she's still looking for me. But she's in relationship with a man. I still love her. What should I do? Any comments?

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Jan 12

If you feel ok with still being her friend then that's ok but since you are here questioning it then I don't think you are ok with it. It probably would be best for you to move on. It sounds like she knows you love her and she might be taking advantage of that. If this is hurting you then you need to talk to her about it and set boundaries or end the friendship and go separate ways.

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Chaqbaby's picture
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Jan 13

@NS100 tq for your suggestion. But the problem is, she has no friend beside me. She's only has ordinary friend at her workplace. But the one that makes her comfortable with is me. And also sometimes when she is having a hard time, and I try to set boundaries, she want to kill herself. What should I do then?

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Jan 13

@Chaqbaby ok, she is manipulating you. So basically she is saying either you do what I want or I will say I'm going to kill myself to make you feel guilty and do what I want. You are not her therapist and you are not responsible for her. It's ok to be a supportive friend but when they are trying to control you by threatening you with suicide then that isn't a friendship that's a toxic relationship. You can give her a phone number for a suicide hotline and tell her to call them because you are not qualified to help someone with suicide tendencies. Tell her you are sorry but you can't help her.

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